How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You - The ultimate keys to attracting a girl and owning her heart forever!
The Ultimate Life Purpose Course - Create Your Dream Career:
Leo's Top 140 Self Help Books
Full Video Transcript Here:
Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org and this is another quick self-help segment where, in about 10 minutes, I'm going to tell you how to make a girl fall in love with you.
This is actually a personal topic that I've been studying hardcore for the last two years because I'm involved in the pick-up community. I came from a place where I had horrible skills with dating and no experience. I didn't know how to flirt. I didn't know how to attract women. I didn't know how to land or keep a girlfriend.
These were all new experiences that I had to go through and learn the hard way -- much harder than most people did. Through my journey, I actually went through two years of brutal training. I studied hundreds of hours of theory about how to attract women, what women want, and female psychology. Then I went out and practiced it in the field in clubs and in bars to test the theories and the techniques and teach myself how to attract women.
This is a slightly different than how to get a girl to fall in love with you. We need to clarify it. There's the attraction phase and then there's the love phase.
This is the same thing I said in a similar video that I shot for girls. Before someone can fall in love with you, you need to first meet them and get some attraction and chemistry going. Then you'll build up to love.
In some ways, the love comes naturally. You don't need to worry about that too much. What you need to focus on is more of the attraction phase. Once you can attract somebody, then the love just kicks in naturally and things just start to happen.
All you have to do is take the biggest obstacles out of the path. Then that process will be smooth. If you have obstacles in the way, you'll have some problems and you'll be falling down here even though you're attracting women.
I know some guys who are good at attracting women, but then they aren't able to keep them around because of several problems that they have. We'll cover some of those and get into attraction as well.
What do women want in guys? This is related to the point of attraction. Even though people separate love from attraction, there's a deep connection there. The fact is that to get love, you need attraction. The attraction carries off into love.
What attracts girls to guys? Girls are attracted to personality and not looks. This is a big misconception among guys, especially guys who have trouble attracting women. They think that their looks are a detriment and because they are a little overweight or they have some crooked teeth or pimples or this or that -- they don't have the perfect body or the perfect face -- they can't attract a girl. Nothing can be further from the truth.
What women are attracted to are emotions. If you can make her feel the right emotions that she likes to feel, then that's it. She's yours. It's done. It's so easy, as long as you can make her feel the right emotions.
It's all about the emotions. Women are sensitive to emotions. Guys are logical and visual. We're going to analyze everything about a woman logically and we're going to be instantly attracted to her within five seconds because of how she looks. That's not the same for girls.
Women are Hypergamous by NATURE (i.e. by instinct) and men are Polygamous by instinct. that's how nature endowed humans. basic biology right here unless of course you do think that nature is SEXIST then no cure to that mental illness (maybe anti-feminist pill will do) but now try to reconciliate the polarity in this modern law of society. there is a discrapency in saying Men and women unite on Love, maybe something else like "private parts".
although this might be labelled as misogynistic but women are not very sophisticated when it comes to complexity in Logic and in Science. this is a statement of fact because if it was otherwise, then by now we must have women scientists and philosophers that are equal or at least near equal to that of men. are they not getting equal opportunity? in fact if you look at the best top scientists who put forwards scientific theories and even theories in other domains. you can hardly find any women. and yes " the exception does not make the rule".
women's love is conditioned on many things but sacrifice. men's love is superior because it men is biologically endowed to sacrifice and protect his lover beside other things like making sure each time she is happy. men's love is heavy burden he carries whereas women's love can be shut just by a perceived liitle deficiency of man in providing her with what she want.
Now, the problem is even if she falls in love with you then you, then it is not because of who you ARE but because of what you HAVE (money, status, looks). women's instinct involves her survival and her offsprings.
why would I strive for all pretensious bullshit (looks, money, social status, +emotional and personal development) while she do nothing but wear a mask aka makeup to deceive?
As a woman, if I just wanna fuck I'm gonna be interested in good looking guys only, but if I wanna have a serious relationship, then I'll look first at the personnality, the connection we have, how he handles is life and if he doesn't look good, I'll still be interested in him but I'm not going to fuck with him very often... But I'll love with all my heart if we have a big connection. Kiss from France !
I generally like Leo's videos, particularly his newer ones. In general I think he is extremely smart and self aware, and I love the advice he gives, but in this video I feel a bit differently. I think there are some valid points here, but I don't like the way he expresses things in black & white terms such as "you need to be a man and stop being a pussy". That bullshit line is exactly the kind of thing I thought Leo would stray away from. I get that he is making a point as clearly as possible and trying to get across the importance of being confident, but I think it's also very important to not re-inforce backwards societal ideas of what a "man" is and isn't as it's a super limited way of seeing the world and can lead to a lot of problems.
There is this girl I've been hanging out with, and doing romantic things. We just went camping this weekend, she is my high school crush. She told me she had a crush on me in Highschool as well! We reconnected 20 years later and have been hanging out for 3 months now, and have developed feelings for each other very quickly. She always says I'm too good to her, and that she loves me. She is about to go through a nasty divorce, and says she's not ready for a relationship, but it's almost like we're in one. She loves how outgoing and crazy I am (her husband actually pulled a gun on me and I said, "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU GONNA DO WITH THAT, BESIDES PISS ME OFF!" She had to hold me back, and he went back in the house like a bitch) she loves all my talents, I cook for her and her children love me as well as my son really likes her. Well, the other day I watched this video. Yesterday she was using my phone to watch YouTube, and all of a sudden she said "you're grounded." I look over and she's just smiling. I said, "for what?" She said, "for your search history on YouTube." (Since it comes up automatically, she seen that I watched this.) I thought for a second, and my jaw just dropped and I said, (nooooooo, you weren't supposed to see that!) She seen how embarrassed I was, and she was just smiling, and said "I actually think it's really sweet." I could see that the gears were turning in her head. I took your advice and used the text for a romantic weekend at the beach, and we always do stuff like that. I don't know what she really thinks about it, did I just screw myself???
The lapsus linguae at 9:31 is very meaningful, I think, as it reveals very powerfully how much the preoccupation about "making a girl fall in love with me" or "making myself attractive to girls" has to do with the incapacity to connect with women at a real and deep level, not only or primarily as "the opposite sex" but as human beings. If you can´t see in a woman anything but her sex, it means in some way you see her as an object for the accomplishment of your own sexual drive. That is exactly what the lapsus linguae reveals
What about a girl who you have complete chemistry with, go out with to different places and is a respectable woman who doesn't want to go bed early but followed by that after kissing nearly a few times, kinda distances her from you for that reason cus she is scared to get attached? Should I try harder for her or leave her be until she starts missing you?
Does this actually work in practice? For me personally is the key smell and sound of his voice / charisma for attraction, followed by type of personality I like and how we click, but attraction for me is more physical think rather than psychological
I second the part about five orgasms and guys, this is actually easy. Once you give them one, they are in the sweet spot and you just have to touch them for like five more minutes. Almost anything will make them O in the sweet spot
All he is saying is show your personality and a good personality is more likely to win than just hots, which is true because a woman wants someone she is comfortable with. Look are always flexible even for guys. I have seen hot guys with some ugos..chick must be funny.
You are giving a one-size-fits-all set of advice, but I don't think everything you say applies to all girls. It sounds like your advice is geared towards promiscuous, extroverted girls who go to night clubs. That's the kind of girl that pick up artists target. They're also more likely to have STDs! Some girls are introverted and like to stay home instead of going out regularly on adventures. There's an INTP girl on youtube who says all she likes to do after work is go home and surf the web and learn things. I met an ISFP girl who said she has never gone to a night club. Also you seem to like to work super hard to get girls. Maybe you need to do that because you don't look good and you're highly ambitious in general. In your video about how women can get a man to fall in love with them, you mentioned many things that I actually don't need to fall in love with a girl, and some of the "desirable" qualities you listed are actually things I don't want a woman to have. For one thing, I don't like a woman to play hard to get. It pisses me off.
Maybe 30 years ago this advice would’ve worked
There’s no need to invest your time , energy and resources in an attempt to get today’s women to fall in love with you
They’re self absorbed and disconnected from reality, and what it takes to make a man feel loved and respected
They want varied levels of excitement and a high level of financial security which you alone will never provide because it’s impossible to please a woman with darkness in her heart and a wandering eye
Work on improving yourself and leave them to their own drama and disaster and if you must have a woman let her approach you
At least that way you’re almost guaranteed some temporary satisfaction
I have wasted my life time on chasing after women and trying to figure out how to become successful with women. Finally, I didn't live the life I wanted. We are living in a society where men back stab other men to please a women and also women back stab men. A women wants two things in a guy 1. Wealth [money] 2. Good looks, so her children would look good or have social high status and acceptance. If you keep chasing after something then you become a slave for it. It makes me feel so good and proud when someone chase after me for approval and love than vise versa. You will feel like you are a famous celebrity. Every-time a women rejects, it depresses me as well as brings my self respect down. Why would a man be man when there is greater advantage being a women in society ? A healthy connection is when both sides equally chase after each other instead of one has to chase after more than the other. But in real life one always walks over the other.
Money, my friend, it is all about resources, they just don't want to admit it. After all, we are nothing but evolved animals, survival instincts baby, disguisting games are being played all the time and the worst thing is that you can't escape from them :). We are fucked up species but pretend everything is completely normal. Total denial.
I agree with all what is said in this video, except the 'O' part of it. I don't think that number if 5 to 10 every time is realistic and represent the norm. I didn't know that men, unlike women, only have 2 ranges of emotions (happy or sad). If true, I have learned something new today and this explains better why we are so different at so many levels and why men can't understand what we feel or why we feel that way. Thanks for this interesting video 🌸
As a psychologist I am shock to hear that, every guy should give 5-10 orgasms every night to girl. OMG! I see that you did not have any experience when you made this video. If you do not know about it, you should not make a video and give them terrible information. I do respect that you have given many good advice. But this one is one of the most important topic in video. I am so sad seeing this video.
All you need to get a girlfriend and to find true love is to be your self that all it takes we think there is a secret way to get a girlfriend or to find love and we need to know about it so we watch and listen to other people and do what they do because it works for them no one knows how to get a girlfriend or how to find true love but what I can say if you be yourself you will be saying the right words because you are being yourself and you will be showing your real feelings because you are being yourself so if you be yourself you will get a girlfriend and you will find true love we all need to help each other and make things better no matter how small it may seem it could be ask how are you or saying thank you when needed it could help someone so much and they will help someone because they got help when they need it I wish you all the best of good luck chase your dreams and goals and have a happy life I love you all let's make things better
Ah I loved what he said until the end... we want (or at least what I want) is a guy who is my partner... I want to shower him with love, gifts, thoughts, and orgasms... but I want all of that back. If he spends all of his money doing so than that’s not attractive either; we both must be successful and mindful.
I want someone who pushes me to be my best and believes in my success, albeit he cannot be completely detached from me either and he would need it reciprocated from me. I need to need him and he must need me for myself to feel valued in his eyes. If there is no connection on an emotional level than you may as well just be a friend or out of my life entirely.
Some amount of physical attraction is necessary, although it doesn’t mean that you need to analyze yourself against other men... because attraction isn’t summed up into one definite category for all men and/or women. Obviously.
If you want love than be yourself and love yourself... the right one will then fall into your arms. After that you must love her back or she will get frustrated, hurt, and leave.
If you want a fuck, than drop the act and standards.
Females want an Adult, not a man or woman per say, just someone who has their shit together and who cares about themselves as much as they care about others.
Men and women have at their disposal an array of resources for generating greater knowledge of truth so that their lives may be ever more human. Among these is philosophy, which is directly concerned with asking the question of lifes meaning and sketching an answer to it. Philosophy emerges, then, as one of noblest of human tasks. According to its Greek etymology, the term philosophy means "love of wisdom". Born and nurtured when the human being first asked questions about the reason for things and their purpose, philosophy shows in different modes and forms that the desire for truth is part of human nature itself. It is an innate property of human reason to ask why things are as they are, even though the answers which gradually emerge are set within a horizon which reveals how the different human cultures are complementary.
Philosophys powerful influence on the formation and development of the cultures of the West should not obscure the influence it has also had upon the ways of understanding existence found in the East. Every people has its own native and seminal wisdom which, as a true cultural treasure, tends to find voice and develop in forms which are genuinely philosophical. One example of this is the basic form of philosophical knowledge which is evident to this day in the postulates which inspire national and international legal systems in regulating the life of society.
Nonetheless, it is true that a single term conceals a variety of meanings. Hence the need for a preliminary clarification. Driven by the desire to discover the ultimate truth of existence, human beings seek to acquire those universal elements of knowledge which enable them to understand themselves better and to advance in their own self-realization. These fundamental elements of knowledge spring from the wonder awakened in them by the contemplation of creation: human beings are astonished to discover themselves as part of the world, in a relationship with others like them, all sharing a common destiny. Here begins, then, the journey which will lead them to discover ever new frontiers of knowledge. Without wonder, men and women would lapse into deadening routine and little by little would become incapable of a life which is genuinely personal.